We often think, has a husband who behave like a ‘child mother’ is that as much as possible avoided. We assume that a husband like this always lead to conflict in the household.
Knowingly or not, any differences that we have encountered in the household could potentially be a conflict and sparked a quarrel between husband and wife. Conflicts will be more sharp when we see the husband as a child mummy is so upsetting.
We will be protracted hated his guts are often comparing us with the figure of the mother. Being wishy washy and seem less responsible.
The inadequacies of the husband who seems more obvious by the day will tire you out. And possibly cause breakdown of a marriage.
How do I address the husband of the mother?
Psychologist Rima Olivia, Psi, in an interview with theAsianparent say about the importance of changing the viewing angle. “As soon as we turn our focus on the lack of the husband as the child’s mother, rows of weaknesses will show up and make us more angry at him.
Instead, we need to look at the ‘child mother’ as an advantage.
“There are people who probably is not raised by his mother, he will grow into a do not know how to treat women. He became rude, seeing women as objects, and do not know how to respect women.
You can imagine when people like this to be a partner for life, “says the founder of the Consulting Ahmada.
Furthermore psychologist who live in Jakarta also said, “So, you should fix first viewpoint. Think of it as an advantage. ”
Often emotions make us forget the amount of excess husband we call the child’s mother. For example: patient, gentle and caring. In addition, do not forget, good habits mother-in-law also decline significantly in children.
Virtues that make up the person of a man, maybe we chose him to be my husband, because we are interested in the position. Attitude is the fruit of education of the mother.
By changing the angle of view, we will accept the shortcomings of the husband as a complement of the advantages we have. Instead, our lack enhanced by the advantages of the husband.
Assessing something positive will help us foster a healthy relationship, harmonious and complementary.
For example, if we have a husband who tends fickle and irresponsible, perhaps at the same time we can develop the ability in terms of leading and making decisions. In addition, we can develop the full potential that we have, however, if we are still stuck in negative thinking, of course it would create a conflict that never ended. It did not help solve the problems that we face in married life.
When we are preoccupied with the affairs of reproach and looking for a husband deficiency. Regretted our choice to the man we call the child’s mother. At the same time, perhaps your husband is trying to remain patient. Trying hard to hold back your emotions and not triggered to avenge our attitude explosive and impatient.
In addition, by changing the angle of view, we will better understand obedience to her husband as a natural thing.
Thus the being-in-law did not appear as an opponent to be defeated, but as a friend who has always been a major supporter of us in the face of her husband.